A ray of sunshine

Good news, Loud’s behavior is improving. Not a landslide by any means but we have progress! Yay! I’ve taken him into the community once this week and his outburst was small and was only about 20 minutes. Yes, ONLY 20 minutes. That’s a tremendous improvement in comparison to the 2 hour tantrums. I’m proud of him. He has improved a little in school too, I think he has it figured out; we are all talking, collectively, and the entire team is holding him accountable. Today both Loud and Lovely had a family visit and it they were a no show, Loud did NOT take that well.

Lovely is doing well, she is working on her confidence and speaking up. She has been told her entire life that her voice doesn’t matter and her self esteem is wrecked. I’m all about empowering her, praising her for speaking up, and rewarding her for a job well done. Lovely eats up words of affirmation and continues to try her hardest. Our next feat is speech therapy, I bet her confidence will skyrocket after a few weeks of speech both inside and outside of school.

Tata is struggling, poor baby. Her caseworker is nonexistent and she really would enjoy a family visit. I’ve emailed about it, called about it, a d the only answer I’ve been given is that she’s probably being moved to a new home with her siblings. It seems odd to me that they’d move her at all because typically the state doesn’t like moving kids from here to there as it’s bad for the children. Sadly, I haven’t gotten much at all from her caseworker. It’s been a month, I should be seeing her caseworker soon as it it required that we have a monthly face to face meeting.

It’s fall break! We aren’t going to do much as taking Loud anywhere is hard, he does much better solo and we have made improvements and I don’t want to backtrack. I am going to request respite for him for a couple of days so I can take Lovely and Tata to ride a rollercoaster… they’ve never been on one before! It’s hard to get respite in general but even harder for a child with behaviors, I guess time will tell. I’d love to give the girls the gift of the rollercoaster experience!

Grading for the kids have come and gone, I’ve got a group of smart kids! I’ve got a pile of awards from all of the kids, I’m a proud mama!

Football has started, both Bunny and Boychild have enjoyed it. They both had their first games over the weekend and they cannot wait to get back to practicing.

Cheer, cheer, cheer.

Jet Ski Finals are now completed, yay!

I’ve gone through and bought all the kids new bedding and jackets to prepare for the winter. Eight bedding sets and eight winter coats. Cha-ching.

Biscuit is going on a trip with her friends during fall break, to Huntington Beach. Boys are going too. My mama spidey sense is tingling. 🙄

Blue has a boyfriend, she spend time with him as much as possible.

Boychild has moved up in the world as he is quickly approaching his 12th year on earth. He is no longer considered one of the ‘little’ kids and now has more privileges.

Bunny is a sassy, bratty, diva. She is at the age that makes me want to knock her little head off. I love her, undoubtedly. She is my most challenging child right now. Yes, even with Loud and the tantrums.

Lemon is a bright little girl, she is reading at a second grade level right now and is exceptional at math. She reminds me a lot of Biscuit when she was younger. Smarty pants!

Halloween is coming, I cannot wait! Costumes and fun. Most of the kids have decided what they’d like to be.

It’s time for me to make dinner and enjoy the cool weather!

Want to know what’s cool?

That was sarcasm. Sarcasm that’s so heavy it’s dripping, it’s saturated everything, I’m effin’ drowning in it. Minnie’s caseworker is a piece of work, Bullhead City’s Department of Children and Youth Services ought to be ashamed of her. Imagine getting a call from the caseworker, we will call her Ass, while she’s on vacation saying that Minnie will be dropped tomorrow. Awesome, right?! This lady took time out of her personal vacation time to work out a child coming into our home. I’m feeling really good about her, how kind of her. EXCEPT, Ass had Minnie dropped off with nothing except her personal items. No paperwork that I’m am supposed to recieved upon a child’s arrival. Seriously, this is bad guys. If for whatever reason Minnie wanted to run off  and I needed to file a police report or if she wanted to be spiteful and tell someone I wasn’t her placement I had no proof, no rights whatsoever, to do anything about it. 

Simply put; that’s freaking dangerous. 

I had to wait until she was back from vacation to request pertinent information. She sent it over but only after sending an email saying it was hard to get an emailed copy or some B.S. Oh, it gets better. Minnie tells me she has an unsupervised visit with her bio family over the weekend. That’s fine and dandy but I wasn’t notified, way to go Ass. I was told by Minnie what date and time it was and it conflicted with our plans. Seeing as I wasn’t notified of the visit…I just sent a snatchy email to Ass requesting that transportation be cancelled as we would be in the visitation area. Crisis averted. 

Today, Minnie informs me that she has a family counseling appointment via phone, no problem! I toss her my phone and head out to drop kids off at activities. When I arrive home Minnie tells me it wasn’t a family counseling call, it was a CFT (that’s a meeting where all the people in the case chat about goals and such.) That’s not her job to have to keep track of all this crap…she’s a 16 year old girl.  That’s something I should have been notified about. Good ol’ Ass is still slacking off. Naturally, I’m irked. I sent yet another mega snatchy email, I was was a total jerk in retrospect, and requested any important dates in a not so nice way. Hopefully Ass and I will get through this but, man, we are off to a rocky start. 

On a positive note, Minnie has joined a youth group with our church on Tuesday nights! Biscuit goes so it’s less of a scary thing to just pop into. 

One last thing; can you do me a favor readers?! Can you send positive thoughts or a prayer for Joanna? She was in a terrible car accident and has been unconscious since then. We are all pulling for her and every last prayer, thought, idea…anything helps. Thanks!

“When I am afraid, I put my trust in you.” 

[Psalm 56:3]