Just breathe.

Tomorrow we will officially be a house of 7. Then we dwindle down to a family of 5 as Biscuit and Blue are leaving on their trip to Colorado too! I’m going to be lonely, I think. Husband is going to suffer because he spends a lot of time with Biscuit and Blue after our younger kids are put to bed, every night it’s a full blown chatter fest topped with ‘bean dips.’ 🙄

Flower is off to college; its bittersweet. Hopefully this move can help with her maturity level, the whole entitlement thing is not my favorite. Flower doesn’t think she is anything other than perfect in her eyes, I’m just going to roll with it because I can’t stand any more guilt trips. No matter what I say or do she thinks I’m mad at her, it stinks. I’m all about living and learning; tough love. If my kid can’t get out there and learn by trial and error she will end up being 25 years old, living at home, expecting me to take care of her. Experience matters, failure matters. I do these things because I love her and expect greatness from her, I am not an enabler… I am raising the future leaders of the world.

Hair is moving in with relatives. That was to be expected and this is exactly why I do foster care. I want my placements to go home and if they can’t to home I want them to live with their extended families. If that’s not an option I always support whatever decision my teen placements want… sometimes it’s to be emancipated, move to a group home, or even moved to a different foster home. I don’t always agree with what the older kids choose but I always support them; that’s my job. I want kids to be happy, safe, and feel loved. I am relieved that she is moving tomorrow as recently she has had behavioral changes that I’m not keen on. No one in the home is keen on them, to be honest.

In other news, I’m seeking out recipes for large families. Do you have any great dinner recipes that I could double for my army of children? I truly feel like we live off of chicken and avocados at this point. I’d like to switch that up.

We survived the move!

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Take a look at the view, it’s gorgeous. We have, what seems to be, a million boxes to unpack. We had several friends help us move, pick up kids/drop them off, and swing by with drinks and treats, and we are forever in their debt. I’m surrounded by loving, selfless, people and I love it. Now…we try and find the things we need. It. Is. Impossible. Our entire 3 car garage was stacked full of boxes, no kidding but now things have mellowed out. Now we have to wait a horribly long time for OLR to come and license our new home. Our new Licensing worker, Star, is absolutely amazing. She is constantly helping me and ironing out this entire move/license/inspection. I heart her.

Several weeks ago, an acquaintance who I work with mentioned reading my blog! Hey girl, you prompted me to update my blog despite being so incredibly busy! Kudos to you! Also I’m glad that you reached out to me about foster care!

In our new neighborhood we are very close to unhabitated land and that means more dirt bike riding! Weehaw! We are all pretty excited about that. We have all been busy so exploring the desert and playing hasn’t been a priority. Hopefully we can change that soon.

We finished up the cheer season at The Summit in Florida. Our gym, in our tiny town of Lake Havasu City, had 4 teams go. It was an invitation only event. Two of the teams that went were Biscuits teams, it was a crazy adventure between the ESPN center and all of the Disney World Parks. I’m proud of Biscuit and proud of our coaches and gym.

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In other news, we are still waiting for court dates and a final say in the case for Bells and Shy. Again. Everything is still up in the air…this is a slow, painful, process. It’s been over a year since they’ve been with us, they are absolutely wonderful. I love them. I rejoice in their accomplishments and feel their pain in their shortcomings.

We have also opened up another bed in our home for another foster child. Boy or girl aged between 6-13. Secretly I hope it’s an older girl but you never know what you’ll get! Things in our home are pretty normalized with our 2 foster kids and if they end up staying for the long haul they can be helpful or inspirational to the other children who will come to our home in the future.

I’m having a party at my house this weekend, it’s an end of the season party for Bunny’s cheer team. The team mom is hosting it here and I’m pretty excited to see all of the girls play together and swim! The tiny team has a great group of mom’s and despite the crazy drama that happened this year…we are still pretty tightly knit. The new season is approaching quickly, cheer camp starts this Friday. Check it out! You will love this investment into your child.

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Also, if you ever have questions about foster care, or anything on my blog, feel free to contact me! You can email me directly at fostermom at gmx dot com. I am open to help guide anyone along any path and solve any problems foster related or otherwise.